We talk to people, and we believe that we share our thoughts, emotions, and feelings. Through communication, we share love, and we share our perception, our ideas, our concepts, and understanding; hence, we think we have influenced someone the way we wanted, achieved a place in their heads and hearts. It’s natural to think this because this is the way it seems, doesn’t it? And that should be the purpose of this text as well, to influence and to communicate even if to a single person, otherwise what’s even the point of me writing it in the first place?
What are you designed to gather?
Communication aside…. we all have different sets of minds. Although ingredients are same, but there is a proportional difference in every aspect. We usually believe that we gain our thoughts and nature by what we perceive from the outer world, we are the sum total result of the impact of the outer world, but that’s not the case, truth to be told our mind only perceive what it is designed to perceive. Of course, the outer world can mold a lot in us but that’s always dictated by our inbuilt design.
Let me give an example, two children born around the same time growing up in a same house with same guardians and inside the same social structure usually turn out to be the completely different personalities, even if they have some similarities, it has more to do with their primary psychological structure than their upbringing.
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On the other hand, some of the identical twins have similar characteristics to an extent in their personalities only if they have similar nerve structure. It’s your nature that determines your personality not the other way around. Our minds perceive things differently or should I say we can only think how we are designed to think in every situation.
That’s why different children in the same household even without any major outside impact act differently in the same situation. That’s the root cause of our dissimilarities from each other or else we would be so similar we would be the same person.
We like what we already like.
If you give someone to eat something they may like it or not but if they like it, is it because of the food or is it because they already have the liking to the taste of that food inbuilt in them, they were bound to like it from the start, even if it’s the first time they are tasting this taste the liking have to be there before hand or else they cannot appreciate it, in other words they are programmed to like the taste and also it’s same if they don’t like it.
When you present a thought to someone, he or she should already have a liking for the idea that thought represents or at least some part of it to like your view or they can’t like it.
If you are representing a perspective to someone, they will only see it through their own design of mind because there is no other way for them to see it, that’s why all communication is a false hope of sharing our exact emotion. Ideologies which you didn’t like at first but liked afterwards are only change in perspective to aspects which you had liking to, it’s just that you didn’t see those aspects of those ideologies before.
Encryption of mind.
No one can like some ideology which, or a person who has nothing to offer to their liking. People usually believe the religion they were born into not because they believe the religion itself but because our mind is such that we have this belief that we are significant and thus, the more anything is integral to our self the more it has to be significant or else we ourselves become insignificant.
You cannot make anyone understand something which they are not already aligned with. People like what they already like. People love what they already love. You like, what you are reading right now or not is already encrypted in you. 
Talking to ourselves.
So the thing is you cannot positively influence anyone ever, all you can do is say something which he or she is already in tune with, but if you did so, did you actually communicate or influence someone or they only listened to themselves, your words were just assurance to their own thoughts.
In short we can only listen to our own minds, our communication is with ourselves, we can only recognize what is already recognized by us, so next time when you say something to someone remember this if they actually agree, it has nothing to do with you, they are only agreeing with themselves and if they don’t, it still has nothing to do with you, they couldn’t have even understood you, their minds can’t register what it is not already coherent with……. and its same with you as well.
Catharsis…
Communication with others is necessary but in our whole lives we can only communicate with ourselves, but still a rare set of words can release the pressure, it’s when you find something to relate to, it sooths a chaotic soul, you feel like someone touched a chord, a chord invisible to most. It’s weird that one’s turmoil expressed in any form can be therapeutic for other, well even if not for any other, definitely for the one who expressed it.
